Caution: Dating May Appear Closer Than Intended
Wednesday, June 25th, 2008
Yesterday on the bus home from work, the Trixie behind me was on her phone detailing her date with “Ben:”
“So then I invited him upstairs to meet Peako…..oh, she absolutely loved him! And you know she doesn’t like ANYBODY, so that’s saying a lot…..well, then we went out on the balcony and sat with a glass of wine….yes, I let him kiss me….yes, that was it….I know….I know….it was VERY grown up…sooooo different from Brad.”
It was a timely conversation to have overheard. I’m beginning to think about these things. Things I honestly believed I was done with. Things like first date kissing, whether offering to pay and actually intending to do so go hand-in-hand, what really happens at the end of the third date, and exactly how many dates is typical these days anyway.
It’s been two and a half years since I went on a first date. It’s a bit unnerving to admit. I mean, who am I on a date these days anyway? Am I coy? Am I straightforward? Am I down-to-earth? Am I funny? Am I a big dork? Am I sexy? Really?
The last time I dated, I didn’t go into it with the best mindset, let alone intentions, and it turned into a whole bucketful of drama. Rebounding, whether it’s just sex or something more, is completely shitty to the other people involved. Always.
Knowing that, I’m wary of the idea of being “out there,” of the idea of learning about someone new, tasting their foreign kisses, admitting my weaknesses. All. Over. Again.
And yet, here I am being asked out on a date by someone I sort of already know and actually like. Here I am answering…yes?
Wow, that’s fantastic news!
I had been in a relationship for 4 years and then had to do the single thing, I know where you’re at. I think the important thing for me was that I knew who I was, I knew what a liked and didn’t like, and I didn’t need to be that immature girl who agreed to everything.
Believe in your instincts! And have a lot of fun!
You don’t have to be anyone, be yourself.
I hope it all works out for the best…best of luck from me to you girlie 
My my, you have been busy!!
Ahh the excitement of first dates, both the most thrilling and terrifying experience in. the. world. Have fun! x