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Wednesday, October 18th, 2006
What’s your blog address?
Scary. The idea of someone actually reading this. I guess anyone can really, that’s the point, but people I know?? I don’t know how I feel about that. What would someone say, for instance, to irreverent thoughts like this?
I am so happy I didn’t have to fight with “Bus Boy” this morning. He’s so strange. He wears one of those Columbine looking coats and cuts me off in order to get on the bus. Last week, he actually turned on his heel and about knocked this poor old lady over. (And she’s very nice. She and I discussed the sailboats across the street one morning when the bus was nowhere to be found for an amazing 20 whole minutes. She was very upset.) It makes me angry too to see “Bus Boy” rush toward the last remaining seat. He should let her sit there. Or someone in the front of the bus should give up their seat for her.
I wonder at what point in your life do people start giving up their seats to you regularly? Would it be at a younger age for women than men? Interesting.
And while I’m on the subject of commuting, I think it’s totally crappy that no one EVER gives up their seat. I was on the red line one day coming back from Grand and gave up my seat for an older man who boarded. And then the most amazing thing happened. This 16 year old looking boy gave up his seat for me. It was like karma or something. He reminded me so much of Ryan. Ryan would have done that too. That is the only time anyone has ever given up their seat for me. Why don’t men do that anymore anyway? Does feminism mean men no longer have to treat women with any bit of chivalry? Chivalry.
A woman on the first plane I ever flew on said to me once, “Who says chivalry is dead!” Not as a question, but as a comment. A man helped her stow her carry-on back when we actually could take our luggage on the plane with us. Maybe he would also have given up his seat on the el.
Feminism. Chivalry. Is it an either or? I think sometimes that women signed up for more than they bargained. I think in some ways some women expected that men would continue to treat them in the ways they appreciated and had always enjoyed, while also being able to have new freedoms. Sometimes I wish I could stay at home and do whatever I pleased and not have to waste a moment’s thought about whether or not men give up their seats on public transportation. Maybe choice is modern feminism. But that’s a whole other topic.
Well- would someone say, after reading my thoughts, that I sound bitter or angry or am wasting my time with complaints like that? Maybe. But then, like that 16 year old boy, people surprise me.
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